Sierra Mountain Times

Desperately Dating: Part Two

Dear CJ,

I referenced your article to a man who has diligently been on a local dating site for the past year with no success… I was curious as to his response to multiple profiles. No answer…I guess he wasn’t impressed (or perhaps? yikes!) with my note.

Does your friend use a rating system? Tuolumne County hasn’t even had a scorecard since I started dating. Mariposa County has a “3” and Stanislaus County a “0”. It’s really simple, and my goal is to score a “5” before Christmas…

How does it work? One point for each of the ten categories: showing up, basic hygiene, talking positive, compliments, laughter, physical “spark”, similar interests, similar beliefs, venue choice, and of course that (“WOW”) kiss… Do you think my rating system is too harsh? Maybe Sierra Mountain Times could host a Singles Charity Benefit… 

~ Dating (names will remain confidential)

Dear Dating,

Thank you for referencing my column. I am sorry your gentlemen friend didn’t respond because I feel it is a good idea to have more than one profile out there if you are looking for someone. Not only does it give you the opportunity to “network” with more people, but also, as my friend pointed out, you can’t always say everything about yourself on just one. We are all so multi- faceted. She and I both agree that we can be different people depending on the day, and sometimes the hour. She is having a lot of fun with the different profiles, and she finds that the profile she put out that says nothing about her work or travels is more fun, she can say anything she likes and is getting better response from men by talking about farting.

I am sorry I do not know more about rating systems and I will look into it. As far as your rating system it looks good to me. The great thing about dating through an Internet site is you can be yourself. The people who read what you have to say and don’t like it can just move on and you don’t have to see their response…As far as the Sierra Mountain Time hosting a Singles Charity Benefit??? I have no idea, but it sounds fun!

Dear CJ,

Here are my suggestions for your friend looking for a date for Christmas: First, there are many lonely people out there, especially at the holidays. I realize most of them “will suck the life out of you”, but you can do a little “screening”. I don’t know your girlfriend, but sometimes a person can get a lot of “satisfaction by “giving” and “sharing” of themselves at the holidays. Some people volunteer at food banks or shelters, some people take a stranger into their home for a holiday dinner. There are places like Avalon adult living center in Sonora, or Foothill Village in Angles Camp. Or, she can go to a local church of her choosing and the pastor or whomever’s in charge can make suggestions and possibly do the foot work for her to place someone who would enjoy spending Christmas with a “family”, even if it is not their own. To be continued… 

~ The Duck

Dear Duck,

I will continue with your great response next time, but I wanted to start with the first part because I feel that it is so important for all of us to think about doing these things this Christmas. My children and I do not have a lot to give in the way of money, but this year we have made a pact to do more than the usual, which is each of us buying a toy for a child to donate. Not only should we do this for the holidays, but we need to think about doing something more as a part of our everyday lives. To me this includes picking up trash instead of walking by it, pulling over to help some one in need, and smiling at someone and saying “hi”.

Please send all of your comments and questions to cj@sierramountaintimes.com