Bartender’s Tips by CJ Schaffer
Help for the Hard Working Man
It seems to me that some men out there are in need of a little help. This week several men talked to me about their relationships ending. Is everyone breaking up?
The first gentlemen who told me about his relationship woes told me how he had worked so hard, six days a week. He went on to tell me he had worked so much because he wanted a nice life for the woman he was going to ask to marry. He had thought about her all the time, and was so happy. After listening to his story I asked him if he had told her all the things he had just told me. To which he responded, ”She knows how I feel about her, why else would I bust my butt six days a week…”
The second man who spoke to me had a very similar story. His relationship had been only four months, but he claimed to have been in love with her. She, according to him, had broken up with him for no good reason. “She had to have told you a reason,” I said.” His response, “She got pissed because I went out with my boys.”
If any of this sounds familiar listen up, I am going to give it to you straight… We want you to spend time with us. Most women want the man in their life to be a friend. A man who can provide all the material things we want can be nice, but what is the point if you have no time to enjoy them together? It is not what you can buy for us; unless you are independently wealthy, then, we want a Ferrari, maid, and a private residence in Fiji…You get the picture. Women want men to listen to us. Guess what? We are no more mind readers than you are. If you are thinking about us let us know! A simple phone text will suffice. We are busy too, and do not require a two-hour phone call.
O.k., are we starting to see how the working six days a week thing is no good – we want YOU, gentlemen, not your money.
Women are for the most part forgiving and loving. We want you to talk to us, and we want to feel important to you. If you are already in a relationship try to remember what it was like when you first met. Did you let the person know who you were, and what you were thinking? Relationships can be hard, but remember, you are in this together. Just telling a woman you are thinking about her, spending time with her, or putting her ahead of your friends once in awhile will get you far. GOOD LUCK!
PS: I don’t suggest quitting your job to hang out with us all the time. We have too much stuff we need to get done.
I want to hear from you! Please send questions or comments to
cj@sierramountaintimes.com.
